You want to get liberated from the confines of ‘ordinary’ and ‘acceptable’. Maybe you have a straight jacket waiting in your closet, a BDSM contract printed and your dominant fantasies written out on a note in your phone.
Dominate Me
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The Myth We’ve Been Taught About How to Fuck
We’ve been told there’s a right way’ to have sex
Women have been harmed enough throughout human history, haven’t they?
So be nice.
Be polite.
Be tender.
Be respectful.
Create comfort.
Be loving.
Be giving.
Be equals.
Give space.
Ask her for what she wants.
Respect what she wants.
Neglect the irrational current in you that might make her feel unsafe.
Be proper.
Be normal.
Be good.
For God’s sakes.
I think that’s beautiful.
Noble.
And also: profoundly boring
Because, as our kinky friend Marquis de Sade once said:
sex without risk, without power, without pain… is like food without taste.
So while cultural conditioning has trained us to shrink from our true sexual desires, to be pure and to tame the filth that pulses in our naughty, sinful veins…
… something deep inside us knows something’s off.
Something deep inside us knows there is another side to sex.
A dark, delicious, shadowed half of erotic life that the modern world tries to cancel:
The half where names are being called.
Where bodies are constrained.
Where pain is royally given.
Where discomfort is created on purpose.
Where control is taken.
Where commands are spoken.
Where there is usage.
Where power contrasts are magnified.
Where the morally inacceptable is included.
And where the personal will is surrendered so absolutely it dissolves the ego and awakens Consciousness to itself.
History left trails of this hidden side to sex. From hetaerae to courtesans, from sexual rites to the chambers of kings, kinky desires have always been there, countering the culturally conditioned pattern of being “good” and “nice”.
Women have been shamed for embodying it and men have been trained to be dominant but not to fully understand and touch the depth of their craving.
Their craving for transgression.
And yet, the pulse of this hidden, primal erotic current survives–waiting for those brave enough to engage it.
So that it can remind us what it feels like to be truly ungoverned, truly wild, truly whole and truly alive. If you’ve read this far, you already know it: you’re not made for a vanilla sex sort of life.
Maybe you feel that ache in your gut.
That pull to lead, to take control, to explore the edges of erotic power play and to own your full sexual power. Meanwhile you feel the tension of a world that says don’t, and the fire inside that says do.
You want to step into the dark and explore the forbidden.
But there’s one problem: there’s no one around to have deeply indecent kinky adventures with.
Maybe you’re single. Or maybe you have a partner, but they aren’t kinky. Or maybe they are, but they’re not submissive.
Whatever the reason: you might be feeling caged in a life that doesn’t include interaction with your deep desire to take control.
Your dominant side stays trapped inside.And that can leave you feeling:
* Unsure, insecure, even a little ashamed of your kinky fantasies;
* Afraid of ever making a mistake or hurting a partner;
* Or even: second-guessing your sexuality.
So you do nothing or accommodate your partner(s), while the part of you that craves control remains unfulfilled.
That unclaimed power is begging to be lived, and it feels like an itch you just can’t scratch.
“While I gave you a collection of bruises, the only marks you left on me are good memories. I especially loved your soft thank you’s and those cute little looks in between. You communicate so well, and I can’t wait for next time—with more tying and fucking, and just a little less pain.”
What dominant men really need?
After 3 years of dating dominators in the Dutch sluthood and being a kink-friendly sex worker, I’ve seen the same truth over and over:
Dominant men aren’t just craving sexual release.
Rather, they need:
- A safe space to express their deepest darkest desires;
- A real connection with a hot, fun and slutty submissive who lights up listening to them aka: someone who matches their freak.
Preferably they find both in one and the same person.
Preferably that person is not their therapist ;-)
And that’s exactly why I created Dominate Me.
What Dominate Me Is
Dominate Me is a hot, fun and deep erotic experience.
Think of it as a playground, a living laboratory for your inner dom.
Where I am your experienced submissive: playful, creative, honest, eager to please and skilled enough to offer you real feedback in real time.
Together, we’ll co-create a kinky adventure that’s both safe and steamy, consensual and politically incorrect.
This is the place where:
* You can finally experience how hot, fun and deep kinky play can be;
* You build the skills and confidence to naturally evoke surrender in a sub;
* You discover your signature style of sexual domination that will carry over into other or future kinky relationships–your authentic erotic power.
“You are subby, slutty, and very eager to please. Love your communication, eye contact and your enthusiastic reactions to creative ideas. You saying ‘thank you Sir’ after I hurt you, use you or abuse you is absolute gold. Domming you is great fun!”
Why This Works
As a kink-friendly sex worker, I’ve guided hundreds of sessions helping men discover and embrace their sexuality. I noticed that for dominant men, having a submissive partner who mirrors their energy and responds authentically is all it takes to unlock that part of their soul that has been dormant for years.
What You’ll Experience Inside Dominate Me
In Dominate Me, we move slowly.
In Dominate Me, we talk.
In Dominate Me, we exchange kinks, dark desires, secrets and twisted fantasies.
In Dominate Me, we talk boundaries.
In Dominate Me, we find common ground.
In Dominate Me, we have other-wordly, mystical, existential primal fun.
In Dominate Me, we are real with eachother (no performative sexuality)
In Dominate Me, there are no expectations outside of what we explicitly agree upon.
In Dominate Me, we create consent-based power exchange.
In Dominate Me, you’re not playing with a cold stranger.
You’re playing with a hot and fun submissive who loves to serve.
In Dominate Me, we create consent-based power exchange.
Side Effects of Dominate Me may include
Side effects of accepting and inhabiting the full spectrum of your sexual desires may be:
- Massive relief and satisfaction for the part of your soul that craves transgression;
- Sudden outbursts of divine, uproarious laughter;
- Feeling in approval of all your parts, a deep sense of erotic wholeness;
- An awakened, unified sexual will;
- Access to new levels of joy, clarity, creativity and vitality;
- Fearlessness
- Increased capacity to get what you want out of life.
- Improved ability to communicate and negotiate clearly in kink;
- Trust and confidence in the intelligence of your inner Dom, ready to carry over into current or future (kinky) relationships.
Last but not least, you’ll have successfully avoided the psychological and financial risks of unsafe, unconscious play, untrustworthy encounters and/or getting scammed by shady escort agencies.
“That was so much fun Anke! I really enjoyed our session! I will book you again soon! You are awesome and easy going!”
How to know if Dominate Me is for you
This is for you if:
This is not for you if:
About me
Hi, I’m Anke. I’m a kink artist, submissive sex worker and guide for men exploring their dominant side.
But I wasn’t always this woman.
For most of my life, I lived within the story of “good” love: monogamous, tender, and safe. My relationships began on a passionate and promising note, but they always soon started to feel confining, confusing and frustrating to the point of inevitable collapse.
Something vital was missing–something raw, something real.
In 2022, that missing piece revealed itself. A sexual awakening tore through my love life and made it loud and clear to me: You, little runaway christian, have never truly surrendered to a man.
When I entered the world of kink, power dynamics and open relationships, I discovered my submissive, slutty, shadowy, masochistic self. The part of me that wants to be taken, used, man-handled, bruised, abandoned, even destroyed. It was a hidden current that had been dormant for years. And now that it got out, my life became fascinating–I felt like I had finally found the church for my whole body that I had been craving.
The moment I stopped hiding my perverted, weird, taboo desires and allowed them to be finally expressed, seen, received and even serve as creative fuel for new kinky adventures, art and poetry, a profound transformation began.
Large doses of suppressed energy found release.
My conscious and unconscious mind had become friends.
I started doing sex work.
And my life began to pulse with a strange, quiet, rightness.
For the first time my soul felt clear, powerful and whole and I naturally started building a fun, creative, kinky career–the first stable career in my life.
Along the way, I saw something interesting happening: my capacity to fully surrender my personal will naturally invites forward the part in a man that knows how to lead. My yielding brings out his control. My willingness brings out his will.
Over the past three years, I’ve seen many men connect with the pulse of their true will and find joy, freedom, confidence and self-respect through the game of dominance and surrender.
Because in the end, kink isn’t about pain or control.
It’s about truth.
The kind of truth you can only feel when you finally stop pretending to be Mr. Nice Guy–and start being real.
Yeahhh
How It Works To Book Dominate Me
If your dominant side is ready to rise as well–to lead, to explore, to be reclaimed–then this is your invitation to apply for a session with me. The process is simple and straightforward:
1. First Contact
Fill out the intake form below to share a bit about yourself and what you want to explore.
4. Your Domination Experience
We meet at the agreed location, arrive, chat, and, at the right moment, play begins naturally.
2. Coffee date
If I feel we’re a good match, we’ll meet for a coffee date in Eindhoven. This is where we see if our freaks match and if so: clarify desires, set boundaries and co-create the outline of your session. Either of us can still say no to a session up to 24 hours after our coffee date. The price for this coffee date is €100 excluding 21% VAT.
5. Aftercare & Reflection
The last 15 to 20 minutes of the session we spend returning to reality. Gentle touch, massage, silence and/or reflection on what happened to integrate your experience. Depending on the vibe of the moment we can shower together, or apart. Then we hug each other and your transformation is yours to carry home.
3. Booking Your Session
Choose a session length that suits you (see Rates & packages below). We plan a date and time that suits us both.
“Your eyes show your eagerness to be dominated, while communicating exactly that which is needed. You surrender control in a most natural way, making it very easy to dominate you. I remember our steamy fucks with much fondness.”
Rates & packages
Ready for your domination experience?
These rates include my travel costs, travel time, condoms, lube, massage oil and administrative time.
These rates do not include costs for the location we’re meeting, food, drinks and 21% VAT. Those costs will have to be paid by you.
Session time starts when we enter the location doorstep and ends when we leave the location doorstep.
Are you ready to step into your dominant energy with a skilled submissive who you can finally have sizzling hot kinky fun with?
Frequently asked questions
Before booking Dominate Me, most men have a few practical or curious questions–about me, what I’m up for, what I’m not into and just in general about how it all works. I love that. Curiosity is sexy. So here are the questions I get most often–and my honest answers to them.
1. You’re Dutch, right? Why is this in English?
Yes, I’m Dutch. Good question. I’ve just always been super comfortable speaking English, my business is international too, so I just switch easily between the two. Interestingly, most of my Dutch clients also speak English fluently, so it’s never a problem.
2. I’ve never been intimate with a woman so far. Is this for me, too?
Absolutely! Whether you’re completely new to physical intimacy or experienced, no problem. I’m known to be a gentle guide in sex matters.
3. I am new to non-monogamy. This is all new territory for me. Help?
Bless you! It can feel like a lot at first. A great starting point is the book The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton, widely known as the “poly bible”. It’s a warm, sexy and grounded introduction to open relating.
4. I am autistic / have ADHD. Is this for me, too?
Yes! Join the club ;-) Actually what I’ve found out in my neurodiverse journey is that many folks on the spectrum are drawn to kink, and research is starting to show why: the structured communication around sex reduces the stress of “hidden” social rules, creating a sense of predictability and safety. The fixed combination of talk-play-aftercare adds predictability, while pressure, restraint or impact play can help explore our sensory needs.
5. I am in a monogamous relationship and I want to book without telling my partner. Can I?
No. No cheating in my whorehouse. It reeks of bad karma to me. Also, I know from my own experience how valuable it is for personal growth to sit your ass down with your partner, communicate openly to them about your sexual desires and make a case for them. I wouldn’t want to rob you from that opportunity. However, if you do manage to bypass this boundary of mine and I find out during session, I will leave immediately, you will still have to pay in full and you will not be able to book me ever again.
6. Can I get to know you and your kinks a bit better first?
Yes!
a) Read this page and FAQ fully;
b) Check out my Linktree to listen to interviews, subscribe to my newsletter and follow me on FetLife;
c) Join me on Patreon (The Kink Diaries + The Spicy Stuff) to see me as a sub in art, poetry and raw photo material.7. Are you married? Do you have kids? Do you live with a boyfriend?
No, no, and no. I enjoy living on my own in my studio in Weert, where I lead a quiet, contemplative, creative lifestyle. From there I go out to meet friends, lovers and clients on my own terms. I resonate most with the relationship form called relationship anarchy: no claims, fixed rules or expectations–only conscious agreements.
8. How long have you been doing sex work?
Three years. In that time, I’ve guided a few hundred sessions, found my kinky specialization, fell in love with it and enjoy refining my craft every day.
9. How soon can I see you? What do I pay attention to when booking?
That depends on availability in both our schedules. Sometimes I’m free and sometimes I’m booked 1-2 months in advance. Fill out the form as soon as you know you want a session, especially for special dates like birthdays or Valentine’s Day.
10. Where do we meet?
For our first session, for my safety, I want to meet somewhere familiar to me: Lovehotel Eindhoven . Once we know each other better, we can explore other locations as well.
11. How do I prepare for a date to get the most out of it?
- Don’t plan too much that day–allow for space before and after our session;
- Practice good personal hygiene: brush your teeth, wash your body;
- Please don’t smoke, drink or use drugs beforehand – kink rocks most when fully conscious.
12. What will you wear during our date? Can I request something?
I wear what feels right that day, often a combination of black, white, pink and/or purple. I love gold jewelry and pink lipstick and sometimes wear kinky lingerie and accessories. I don’t take requests–I prefer meeting in authenticity rather than in costume.
13. Can I bring you a gift to our session?
Absolutely, I love gifts! Here is my wishlist
14. What kind of (sexual) acts are roughly possible with you?
To give you an impression of what’s on the menu on my side, I enjoy:
To give you an impression of what’s on the menu on my side, I enjoy:
- Erotic or sensual massage (giving and receiving)
- Sweat, primal play, wrestling
- Wax play
- Fingering
- Spanking
- Hair pulling
- Face & mouth spitting
- Nipple play
- Hand jobs
- Giving blowjobs (with condom exclusively)
- Gentle and rough penetration (with condom exclusively)
15. What’s off limits for you?
I do not appreciate:
- Immediate (boob) grabbing or rushing into sexual contact. I need a soft start: “date” time–tea, conversation, openness, to get warmed-up for kinky play;
- Anything anal (giving nor receiving);
- Also: making out is not guaranteed; I always hope I will want it but my experience has taught me it’s best to leave that decision to the moment.
16. What if something happens and I can’t make it to our session? How does cancellation work?
You can cancel your session for free up to 24 hours before the session. If you cancel within 24 hours, you will be charged €100, payable to my bank account with the note “cancellation costs” + original session date.
17. If I like the session, can I prolong it on the spot?
No, the session is planned for your booked time. You can book a longer session next time we meet if you so desire.
18. How does payment work?
Payment is due within 14 days after the session. You can pay cash or via bank transfer. If you don’t pay within 14 days you will receive a 10% fine. If you don’t pay within 21 days you will receive a 25% fine and if you don’t pay within 30 days you will receive a 50% fine. For sessions I may request a deposit. This is always via bank transfer.
19. What data of mine will be recorded in your records?
Only your e-mail address, initials, postal code and town/city will appear in my records.
20. What happens after our date?
That’s up to you. I never push for a next session. Let the experience sink in, and if we both enjoyed it, we can meet again. If not: we don’t. No hard feelings.
21. Can I get your number? Fall in love? Have a romantic relationship with you?
Catching feelings along the way can happen naturally and I think that’s beautiful. I also develop feelings sometimes. During sessions, we may cherish this cozy connection, but outside of that, I don’t offer conventional romance or private contact so no, you can’t have my number.